Whenever I'm asked about my favorite non-fiction book, I always mention Boundaries by Dr. Henry Cloud.  I urge people to buy it, I've given it for gifts, and I think it should be required reading freshman year of college.  People who know me are probably sick of hearing me promote it.


 Here are some snippets from the book that explain why I love it:

1.  Behind the failure to set boundaries in a relationship is the fear of loss.

2.  Words do not come from somewhere outside of us.  They are products of our hearts.

3.  We always need to forgive; but we don't always achieve reconciliation.

4.  Blamers have a character problem.

5.  Those who spend their lives trying to avoid failure are also eluding maturity.

6.  To rescue people from the natural consequences of their behavior is to render them powerless. 

7.  Trying, failing, and trying again is called learning.

Thought-provoking, right?  This book helped me grow up.  Forgive.  Move on.  Find freedom.   

It might help you too.

(This post was not sponsored by Dr. Cloud.  He doesn't even know who I am.)


bethlapinsatozblog said...

Excellent message. Thanks for sharing a good resource. (and send Dr. Cloud a link!)


I'm mostly known as 'MA' said...

I have heard of that book, but never read it. I did take a few Bible study classes on boundaries though and they were very good. I agree that young people need to know about them. They are good for you and for others too.

Lynn Proctor said...

this sounds like the kind of book, i really enjoy--thanks :)

Mina Lobo said...

Powerful words, these really resonated with me. Especially number 1. Thanks!

Jen Forbes said...

Sounds like a great book Mare. I especially like # 6 so many people do this out of love, big mistake!

Grover said...

Never heard of this book but it sounds like an excellent read :)

(Grover at Inane Ramblings)

Brett Minor said...

I had to read BOUNDARIES for KIDS by the same author. He took those same principles and applied to to raising children. Great book.

Dropping in from A to Z. This is my first year participating.

Brett Minor
Transformed Nonconformist

Karen Lange said...

Great points, Mare! I've heard about Dr. Cloud's books but never picked one up. I think I need to. BTW - Dr. Cloud might know who you are. You never know. :)

Have a great week!

Anne said...

Sounds interesting! I will check and see if our library has it...Hope you had a wonderful Easter, my friend!

Brenda said...

Ironically, I ran across this book just yesterday Now your post...hmmm...I think I need to read it. I have a feeling it will help me with some MIL issues we have been dealing with.

Dana Martin said...

What...? B wasn't for Baseball today? JUST KIDDIN'! Better than that, your B was a post I will return to. Now I need to Buy that BOOK! (More Bs... I'm going crazy!).

Loving finding your blog during this blog tour! I'll be back tomorrow!

Waiter, drink please!

Stacy said...

I've heard of it before, but never looked into it. Those quotes have intrigued me, though.

Cindy Dwyer said...

(This post was not sponsored by Dr. Cloud. He doesn't even know who I am.) LOL!

Kate Sherwood said...

I am intrigued, especially with such a strong (unsponsored) recommendation. I will have to add it to my reading list for this summer.

Kate @ BJJ, Law, and Living

Ann Hinds said...

It was easy to be smug until I read "To rescue people from the natural consequences of their behavior is to render them powerless." Oh so guilty and am now living with my consequences from doing just that. Found you on the A to Z.

Great post.