12.28.2012

New (and old) Year's Resolutions

Thinking about the New Year...I stumbled across this post from 2010.  Shockingly, I could have written it yesterday.  On the big stuff, I'm so in the same place.  Do we ever really change?  My updated comments are in blue

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Approaching a New Year...carrying hope and optimism that the coming year will be sweeter, richer, healthier, thinner, safer, more fun, and less stressful than the last one.

I'm making some truly new resolutions this year - things I might actually achieve - because for the past fifteen years, I've had the same three goals. 

1.  Like zillions of other people, I always determine to lose weight.  Just this past year, I did shed a few pounds.  It was forced on me by cholesterol issues.  However, I still need to lose more.  So, that's on the list again.  And I imagine, glumly, for the rest of my life.  Yep.  It's still on my list two years later.  So depressing.

2.  I always resolve to bite my (hard to admit) critical tongue.  That usually lasts about a week.  If I ever master this, I'll only have half a tongue.  Sadly, my tongue is still fully here.

3.  I always resolve to gripe less.  One year my son (who was about twelve at the time), who tended to gripe too, (the apple doesn't fall far from the tree) and I made a deal.  We vowed that we would not be so negative, and that we'd call each other out on negative remarks.  

It worked a little.  But then we discovered that when one of us was displeased with something, the other would agree, Oh yeah, that's crummy.  Which just confirmed our view that life was full of annoyances and worth complaining about.  

So, I'm back to working on that one by myself.  My son is now twenty-four and seems fairly positive, so maybe he's squashed that demon.  I think I might have nudged an inch here.  But, I don't know.  There's so much more to gripe about now.  Whoops.

Clearly, my past resolutions have just been too weighty.  Too high-bar.  This year, I'd like to have more success.  So I've come up with a few attainable (surely) goals:

I want to mop the kitchen floor at least once a week.  This just seems ridiculous now.

I want to dust at least...well, just dust, period.  I swipe at the furniture now and then with a dish towel, so I'm counting this as a win.

I want to clear out the computer.  We have 19,000 duplicate files on the hard drive.  Good grief.  I've dumped a few files, but have added new ones, so I'm probably at square one on this one.

I want to completely read a book.  Not just read the first half, skim the second half, then jump to the last page, like I've been doing lately.  I  just read every word of Bloom by Kelle Hampton.  Wonderful, and I highly recommend it.

I want to increase our charitable giving.  We have a nice house that I don't mop enough, or dust; my husband has a good job; we have an overstuffed computer.   We can do more.  I've had success here.  We've increased our monthly donations of food stuffs to our local food pantry.  Maybe it's worth writing this stuff down.  

I want to remember that Styrofoam meat trays are recycle-able.  I keep unthinkingly tossing them in the trash.   I've mastered this.  Yay!  Only took me eight months.

I want to learn to make cake pops.  I did.  I haven't made them since.  I did learn how to ROAST a PERFECT TURKEY and make SQUASH PIZZA.
So, I've decided, who needs cake pops?


That's about it.  Low-bar goals.  Although, I might have trouble with the book thing. 

I'm making cake pops tomorrow, so I'm already doing better than I've done in the past decade.  When I'm done, I might mop the kitchen floor.  And dust. 

And yeah...I'll keep working on the first three resolutions.  After many years of effort, I don't think I've gotten worse in those areas.  I've just maintained my same level of flawed-ness. 

Maybe, sometimes, just not getting worse is progress. 

That's my view, and I'm sticking to it.   

(And in the New Year, God bless us, everyone.)  



15 comments:

Phil said...

I resolve to eat at least 1 piece of cherry pie next year. It could happen as early as January.

Jo-Anne Meadows said...

At least you succeded on some points me I would fail on every point if I was one to make resolutions which I don't because I am to lazy to think of any.........lol

Frances Stiles said...

Mare, in spite of all our attempts, it is SO hard to change our habits and attitudes! I like the idea of using an old list and updating where you are with it now. Is your tongue at least a little bruised from trying to bite it?!? ;-) Happy New Year!

Annalisa Crawford said...

Sometimes it's the small goals that get overlooked. I identify with the charitable giving - one year I resolved to put my small change in the charity pots when it was handed back to me in a shop. Five years on and I still do it, although not as obsessively - the year of that resolution I found myself walking around with change in my pockets because some shops didn't have charity pots!

Happy New Year. (PS. dusting really doesn't matter - I've pondered this and decided!)

Dana said...

I'm keeping my goals somewhat vague this year. I think that might just be the ticket for me!

Happy New Year, mare!

Annmarie Pipa said...

hope springs eternal!
happy New Year!

Marianne said...

I'm going to resolve to eat more cake pops. I think I'll be successful. You're one smart lady, and I'm taking you up on the "aim low" theme. I may also resolve to do less laundry.

Lisa @ Two Bears Farm said...

I mopped the floor once a week when our house was on the market, and it was such a nightmare.

Lynn Proctor said...

haha you always make me laugh, sometimes out loud---and yeah i hate to admit it but as ridiculous as it is, i wish i could master that mopping thingy ;)--happy new year mare <3

Susan Flett Swiderski said...

Happy New Year! I resolve NOT to make any resolutions. (Although it sure would be nice to lose a few pounds of lardage...)

Darlene said...

I resolve to mop my floor twice a year, whether it needs it or not! That's about as far as I've gotten, but I guess I have all day to come up with a list! Happy New Year!

notes4neta said...

I resolve to mop my kitchen floor before my mom comes for a visit in two weeks! ;)

Emmy said...

Yes I think we all have repeats every year. And really it is the specific goals with steps to them that are more likely to happen than the lofty grand ones.. so the trick is figuring out steps to make the lofty grand ones happen.

Becca Acker said...

I'm with you on #2 and 3! I highly recommend the book (or audio series) by James MacDonald "Lord, Change My Attitude Before It's Too Late." It's helped me really think about my attitude, and I resort back to it on occasion...

Martha said...

My goals always seem to remain the same too. I look back 10 years ago, and yep, still the same, lol. Here's to making this the year we accomplish them - Happy New Year! :)