2.13.2015

Fifteen Shades of REAL Life

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12 comments:

betty said...

Amen to all you said, Mare! Especially 50 years of marriage is a better goal. Never had any interest in the book and obviously neither the movie. I can only hope the movie bombs, but the book didn't seem to, so don't expect that to happen. Definitely won't be getting my time or money.

betty

Living in the In Between said...

I'm so glad you addressed this. It's breaking my heart today to see the excitement for this movie. Our local movie theater is showing it on the hour from 11am on.

Rita said...

Amen!! I had zero interest in reading the books or seeing the movie. Having been beaten and raped...are these women crazy!!?? I have been appalled and baffled that such a sick cruel unhealthy relationship has any appeal to women at all. It breaks my heart that our society has become immune to violence to this extreme. Totally agree with you.

Becca said...

Agreed! Sadly, so few women (and men too) realize #5. I like #15. :)

Annalisa Crawford said...

Twice in the past two days have I heard the book/film described as a love story. I really don't think it is! You make good points.

Jerralea said...

I love your list! In fact, I'm going to try sharing the link to your article on my facebook page. I want all my young adult friends especially to read it.

Jo-Anne's Ramblings said...

Yes yes yes I am so with your here

Juli said...

OKay... while I agree with your points here, I think what is also being missed is that it is meant as a FANTASY book. I liked the series (read way before it was the "thing" to read), much like I liked Twilight, and Dean Koontz and books about crazy wacko serial killers.... because it is so far from my reality that it's an escape.

That said, I think making it into a movie is a huge mistake, as it sensationalizes so many of the points you mentioned. I think many women have that "I can save him" thought when approaching an unhealthy relationship, which is VERY dangerous. Hollywood blowing it onto the big screen will undoubtedly bring on the next dangerous "craze" not unlike the vamp inspired raves and clubs from the Twilight induced era.

But there is an aspect of the book that is good... it gave many women to talk with other women about their personal prefaces. It allowed women the "freedom" to speak their mind, weather it be good or bad, regarding sex. And while I think many may say that's a matter left for the bedroom with the husband, what if THAT is the problem? It opened up the channels for women to openly discuss likes/dislikes in a "judge" free arena.... and also made it easier for the husbands and wives to discuss it.

So there you have it... my 2 cents, which apparently is not what's popular here. But hey... that's just me. :)

Empty Nest Insider said...

I agree that both the books and the movie send a horrible message to young women. Older single women with low self esteem, should also be advised to avoid men with these tendencies.

Julie

Deb J. in Utah said...

Such a great post! I totally agree with you. I am going to try and share this on FB because I think you are right on!

Joyce said...

Fabulous! So with you on this one! And movies no longer remain in theatres under the nose of someone checking for i.d. This will become a rental and I cringe thinking especially of too young girls viewing the film.

Brenda said...

Every young woman...every woman needs to read this post. May set some free!