Some in the press thought the unspoken message behind those words was that his marriage was in trouble...and only Jen was working on it, trying to save it from the rubble. I think he was simply blurting from his grateful heart the fact that working in Hollywood and raising three kids is hard, and she's probably doing most of the work on the home front while he's away acting, directing, and bringing home the bacon.
What a great tribute: Thanks, honey, for working on our marriage. I recognize the sweat and tears you exert to fortify our commitment. Especially since I'm gone half the time.
Mrs. Affleck gave her Ben a humble and endearing smile. It was a rare and unguarded glimpse into a high profile marriage of two very attractive celebrities who will probably never want for a thing. But, it was priceless, because at the end of all the wealth and glamor, the Affleck marriage is comprised of two perfectly flawed people who still have to take out the trash and and be up at night with sick kids.
What Ben revealed was significant. In Tinsel Town, where marriage is taken lightly and divorce is common, this guy told the world he valued his wife, and her efforts were important. And yes, marriage is work. There is no such thing as getting married and living happily ever after.
For all the pretense and fantasy we get out of Hollywood, it was great to see an actor who has it all share that areas of life are challenging. But, valuable.
Congrats, Big Ben on your gold-plated statue. May you always remember what you said when you got it.
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Good for Ben. I have new respect for him as well.
I love Jennifer Garner, always have!
I thought Ben with Jennifer Lopez was bizarre.
It is refreshing to see a celebrity couple that seems to actually have taken their vows seriously and are working on marriage and keeping it together despite it all!
betty
I think stars are really people just like everyone else only they have more pressure on them with the jobs they do. Marriage is work for everyone, it's not always easy and to make a good marriage it does require some give and take from both. I didn't see the Oscars at all. Hope you have a wonderful Wednesday!
Thank you Mare for noticing and emphasizing the MOST important part of his life; his wife and children. I am soooooo glad he got away from J.Lo and found the correct J for him. They both looked beautiful for the occasion. Yet, yes it is definitely more important to live up to what he said that evening rather that what award he was granted.
Very nice post, Mare!
I hadn't heard about this. I've always been kind of jaded about Hollywood marriages, but I have more respect for Ben Affleck now. Thanks.
I didn't see his speach but from what I have heard it was good and he would have earned the respect of many because of it
Well said. No marriage is "easy", but it sure is nice to see high-profile celebrities who still manage to keep marriage a priority.
Tony is friendly with a Hollywood actor. His wife once said that there was nothing worse than when she was venting about her day (totally jealous of the fact that her husband was off getting room service while shooting his newest film), and when she was all done, her husband would say, "well, I just spent 8 hours kissing a GUY."
Marriage is work... regardless of where you are in life. But I do think it takes on a whole new level of difficulty when your under public scrutiny all the time. Kudos to them. :)
I've always been a huge Ben Affleck fan and hearing about the speech solidifies everything (except for the brief detour with the whole JLO thing...).
i love ben--ever since "goodwill hunting"---yeah they seem like a sweet couple :)
Quite right. It's humbling to see people we regard as role-models revealing their humanity. Thank you for sharing this. I hadn't seen the article.
I've been rooting for them ever since they got married. I hope they make it forever.
It is good to hear news like this. I like to see which famous couples stay together - like Bill Cosby and his wife, for example.
I didn't watch the Oscars so I missed this interview, but it his comments were so sweet and yes, it's nice to see Hollywood be real for a change.
It is refreshing to see a celebrity couple commit (in public no less) to keeping the sanctity of their marriage. More couples need to take note, maybe the divorce rate in this country would drop....
I was only half paying attention to the Oscars and thought Affleck's speech seemed odd, but now that you've described it like this I agree that it was a pretty honorable move.
Lee
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I wish I'd watched the Oscars just for this. I like your take on it.
I did not watch the Oscars but just read many of the recaps and funny that I never heard that he said that-- which really reflects a bit on Hollywood too-- as he I believe he was saying just what you think. It is so nice to see a Hollywood couple actually making it!
Great post, Mare! I am so glad to hear of a Hollywood couple committed to each other. Rare indeed these days.
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