I have new respect for Ben Affleck. Not because he just won the Oscar for his movie Argo, but because he revealed from the Oscar podium that 1) marriage is work, and 2) he loves his wife (Jennifer Garner) in spite of it.
Some in the press thought the unspoken message behind those words was that his marriage was in trouble...and only Jen was working on it, trying to save it from the rubble. I think he was simply blurting from his grateful heart the fact that working in Hollywood and raising three kids is hard, and she's probably doing most of the work on the home front while he's away acting, directing, and bringing home the bacon.
What a great tribute: Thanks, honey, for working on our marriage. I recognize the sweat and tears you exert to fortify our commitment. Especially since I'm gone half the time.
Mrs. Affleck gave her Ben a humble and endearing smile. It was a rare and unguarded glimpse into a high profile marriage of two very attractive celebrities who will probably never want for a thing. But, it was priceless, because at the end of all the wealth and glamor, the Affleck marriage is comprised of two perfectly flawed people who still have to take out the trash and and be up at night with sick kids.
What Ben revealed was significant. In Tinsel Town, where marriage is taken lightly and divorce is common, this guy told the world he valued his wife, and her efforts were important. And yes, marriage is work. There is no such thing as getting married and living happily ever after.
For all the pretense and fantasy we get out of Hollywood, it was great to see an actor who has it all share that areas of life are challenging. But, valuable.
Congrats, Big Ben on your gold-plated statue. May you always remember what you said when you got it.